The Imperial War Musem
The Houses of Parliament

was my garage. David was a trooper, helping me to destroy and recycle the myriad carboard boxes ("Save the box in case you have to send it back, or to transport it when you next move" was the mantra, and of course the things that came in those boxes are long gone). The recycling truck will be busy -- we filled the recycling bin and two trash cans with cardboard, plus one trash can with trash. Once those are gone, there should be room for the car.
Once the boxes were flattened, we hit Home Depot and bought 24 feet of shelves and installed them. That got a lot of stuff and all my toolboxes off the floor. There are still some boxes to go through, but by and large, I'm done. I may go back and get more shelves for the other side of the garage when spring comes. There were already three shelves that cover the entire width of the garage at the back and they could use some neatening up when it gets warmer. That cold concrete slab just sucks the heat out of your body through the soles of your feet, so doing much in the garage will have to wait -- the space heater we had out there didn't do much good.
The garage door was replaced this afternoon and it looks great. It's a paneled door. One young man did mine and my neighbor's in under three hours in the bitter cold -- all by himself. I spent my time digitizing the three choruses from Schubert's Rosamunde, a much warmer occupation.
Saturday night I went with a fellow chorus member to see a lovely musical, I Love You Because, at Alex's theatre. It was really a great show and got a standing ovation. Good singing, good acting, good musicians, good play. It was funny and sweet and very enjoyable.
Sitting behind us was a couple that used to be in the chorus, and who, in fact, let us all watch their courtship many years ago. Their oldest son is a year older than Alex, and they used to bring him trick or treating at our house when the kids were small. They loved seeing Alex as the mature young woman she has become and we had a great time catching up.
Yesterday David and I went to Dayton for a family get together. His sister April is still here, waiting for all her papers to arrive so that she can go back to the UK to work for the next 8 or 9 months, and she is staying with their mother. We took them out for pizza and met David's two other sisters and one brother-in-law at the restaurant. Such a family -- in your face, opinionated, funny.
David and I and perhaps his recently widowed sister Debbie are planning to go to visit her in April.
We came back here for the night, and David left very early this morning to get home to vocalize. He sang at a funeral this afternoon for the mother of another former chorus member while I waited for the garage door to be installed. He just called a while ago to say that it went well and that he was heading home for a nap before going back to work tonight.
I'm enjoying a peaceful day after the crazy and busy weekend, and I may just take a nap. It's back to work tomorrow.
I hope to be able to walk across the street to the Underground Railroad Freedom Center to watch the inauguration (they're broadcasting on a big screen in their auditorium), but in case there are business things happening, I'm taking a portable TV to the office just in case.
One of my co-workers, Babacar, a naturalized US citizen from Senegal, was given inauguration tickets by our newest Congressman, Steve Driehaus, and flew to D.C. yesterday. He was so excited to be a part of the event. He's promised to wave to every camera he sees -- so if you see a 6'5" black man with glasses with a big grin on his face, it's probably him.
The way he came to know Congressman Driehaus is a great story. About a dozen years ago, Babacar and a Senegalese friend were eating at a restaurant in northern Kentucky, just across the Ohio River. At a nearby table was a man (Steve Driehaus). He was with two women. Babacar's friend made some cute comment to Babacar, in their native language, Wolof, about how lucky that guy was to have two women to eat with.
Driehaus responded to the remark -- in Wolof -- and of course, Babacar and his friend nearly fell off their chairs. It turned out that Driehaus had served in Senegal in the Peace Corps and knew Wolof well. Babacar and (now Congressman) Driehaus have been friends ever since. It really is a small world, after all.
On December 19, 49 graduates of the Cincinnati Police Academy threw their hats into the air and you could see the relief on their faces, as well as their pride. They had just completed 26 grueling weeks at one of the most rigorous police academies in the country, and this time, every single person who started the program finished, which is unusual.
At the academy, they learned about law, self-defense, cultural differences, mental health issues, marksmanship and probably completed thousands of pushups apiece. They ran several thousand miles. Two of the class members lost over 50 pounds apiece (one of those two lost 83 pounds!). The class valedictorian had a degree in Biology (with a minor in Chemistry) and a large number had bachelor’s degrees in Criminal Justice or Criminology. There were many with military service (including Iraq and Afghanistan) and one man had 24 years in the U.S. Army. One was a brand-new US Citizen (from France) with family members service in police organizations in France and the Netherlands. She had only been here ten years, but in the time learned English, got a GED, took college classes and earned her citizenship.
David was dethroned as the oldest-ever CPD rookie. Louis Arnold, 56, the father of a Cincinnati Police officer was in the class. David was 54 when he graduated, 53 when he started the Academy.
Although he no longer has that age-related distinction, he is now a Field Training Officer and he will train some of the new grads as they complete their 6 month probationary period, taking them along with him on patrol for two of the six months.
David started off the ceremonies with a stirring rendition of the National Anthem. I didn’t get the first couple of words, but the rest is on the video above.
A local TV station covered the event and included a video on their website:
When you look at that video, I appear briefly (right after the announcer’s picture disappears) as the blonde in the gray sweater in the front row of the audience (with my back to you). So now you know who I am!

Thursday was a busy day of dining out experiences. David was downtown singing for the Rotary luncheon of bigwigs at the Hall of Mirrors at the Netherland Hotel (nice work if you can get it -- he shows up, sings, leaves, and gets paid for a full shift). He blew off lunch there to meet me.



She was 17 when I was born. She graduated from high school a month after my birth, and went off to Alfred University (the school of Ceramic Design) that fall. She was a bit overwhelmed at Alfred, and thought she didn't have the talent needed to compete with the more sophisticated students from NY city (she was wrong).
The summer after her freshman year, she took some courses at Cornell, and transferred to what was then Buffalo State Teachers' College. (The University of Buffalo was private then and had not yet become part of SUNY, and there was a separate state school just for teachers.) She majored in Home Economics.
She put herself through school by working as what we'd now call an au pair, living with dentist's family in Buffalo. She graduated in 1950.

That fall, she started teaching, and just taught home economics for one year. She and Bob married in August of 1951. Bob had started school at Cornell before the war and had finished up his degree in Agricultural Engineering in 1948 once the war was over. I believe he served in the European theater, I think with General Patton's tank corps.
Once they married, they moved into the big house on the farm that Bob had just bought. I remember when they first moved in that the place was a disaster. It had been lived in by some bachelor hired men, and was a real mess.
Milli arrived about 11 months after the wedding, and the boys arrived at regular intervals after that. Connie was pretty busy being a mother and helping to keep the books for the farm and keep Bob and the hired men fed. When Grant, the fifth and youngest, was about three, our mother, who had retired, came to the farm to help out, and Connie went back to teaching, this time teaching art. She didn't have the proper credentials, but she took classes at RIT in Rochester at night and got the certification she needed.Connie was very active in the county Farm Bureau. She was also instrumental in getting zoning laws for the Town -- they hadn't existed before. She pretty much steamrolled that into happening.
I don't know how she managed it all, trying to raise five kids and being so involved in the community. Somehow, she managed, despite the frustrations of not being able to be perfect at everything. She was not the greatest housekeeper (it runs in the family -- my house is always a disaster, too -- but she had five kids; I have no excuse). She would, like me, start projects that somehow didn't always get finished, and there were always too many books around (same here).
She also had the family photography and gadget bug -- with good cameras being proud possessions. I think that, had she lived, she would have been as crazy about computer technology and the assorted related gadgets as I am. We both inherited that from our father's side of the family -- the more gadgets the better.She was a great cook (so was our mother). She also had some health-food obsessions. I used to hate eating breakfast at her house, because I was forced to drink mass quantities of brewer's yeast in a tall glass of orange juice. I still gag at the memory of how awful it was.
I think that she decided (like me) that an interesting life, raising your children well, improving your mind, pursuing your bliss and surrounding yourself with worthwhile people were more important that a clean house and a tidy life.
Before she died, she said something that I've tried to keep as my mantra. "This isn't fair. But nobody said life was fair. As I look back on my life, I can say that I loved every single minute of it." I want to be able to say that when my time comes.
She lived life to the fullest. She was a fascinating woman with an excellent mind, many talents and unlimited energies. She produced five fabulous children from the happiest marriage I've ever seen. I am proud to be her sister.
Why? People are asking why I would be taking a course on the Qur’an.
First of all, I’m taking the class because it’s being offered by the Nonstop Liberal Arts Institute, the little do-it-yourself college being set up by the alumni and former faculty of Antioch College. Its efforts are intended to keep the unique spirit of Antioch alive. I want to be some little part of that effort because Antioch was so important to the person my wonderful daughter has become, and because Antioch’s graduates have made a real difference in our world – and I want that to continue.
So, I went through the proposed courses, and found four on Saturdays (the only day I can attend, since the campus is 70+ miles away):
If it turns out that I’m wrong, it won’t matter. I try to follow the golden rule, and do the best I can to be kind to my fellow man. If there is a heaven, I’ll probably get there. But I don’t worry about it. As Cleo Laine sings, “The least you can do is the best you can.”
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Now that I’ve laid the foundations about my (very strong) opinions, I’ll attempt to respond to the questions I've been asked about why I'm taking a class about Islam:
There is a lot of prejudice in the west about Islam. I think that may be because we don’t separate the cultural from the religious. We hear of a woman sentenced to death by stoning after she was raped and immediately, because it occurred in a Muslim country, attribute the cause of the atrocity to Islam.
Why is it that when we heard of the torture death of Matthew Shepard in Wyoming in 1998 we didn’t blame Christianity?
Religion is most of the world is a part of a culture, but not all of it.
What I’ve learned about Islam, so far:
It is a continuation of the Judeo-Christian tradition. A series of prophets have been given revelations from god.
Islam does not believe Jesus is the son of god. They think we’re all the children of god and that god does not beget – he is way above that, and his ability to create is far and beyond mere begetting. He’s done more important things.
Islam has five “pillars:”
The basic thing I’ve gleaned so far is that Islam permeates the lives of its adherents – being aware of god and being thankful/appreciative of his creation is something that Muslims try to be aware of all of the time.
The other basic thing that I’ve learned is that, as our professor said yesterday, god is a lot like Santa Claus. He’s “making a list and checking it twice, gonna find out who’s naughty and nice.” The Judgement will come and the graves will open and we’ll be sent off to heaven or hell according to how we’ve lived our life.
Heaven is a place of gardens and cool streams, where Muslims will have “pure spouses.” The claptrap about the 12 virgins awaiting martyrs in heaven appears to be just that – claptrap.
Women were not enslaved by Islam. On the contrart, Muhammed’s revelations from god elevated the status of woman and put an end to the orgiastic polytheism of 7th century Arabia. Sex became restricted to marriage. Women were no longer property. Women could inherit. Divorce was possible, and women could initiate it. Motherhood was made valuable.
Obviously, I’m just beginning my exploration and there’s a lot more to learn.
Islam, like any religion, is practiced according to the interpretation of the faith by its followers. Fundamentalists are often pretty zealous (as in Orthodox Judaism, Evangelical Christianity, fundamentalist Islam). Don’t condemn the faith because of the misguided actions of some of its adherents.


